So for you
 
having
 comes
 before
 not being
 
 Funny that
don't you think
having
 before
 not being

So in infancy who's
desire for the Other
were you first
aware of?

Your Mum's for your Dad
or your Dad's for your Mum?

Who wanted the Other more
than the Other wanted them?

Mum for Dad

Dad for Mum

Both for (each)Other

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