So for you
 not being

 comes before
 having
 
 Funny that
don't you think
not being
 before
 having

So who in infancy
could you sometimes
not be it but always
have it for?

your

Ma

your

Da

or

Both

or is it
obsessed
with some
stand-in
"Ma" or "Da"
perhaps a
Grandma or
a Granda or an
Auntie Nettie or
your Ma's two
doors down
lover
"Uncle"
Jim

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